[DML] Introduction / Challenge

Hi guys!

My name is AJ, for those of you who don’t know. I’ll be 19 this month, and as I have started work, my life has gotten severely cluttered in many ways. I have developed a challenge for myself in order to declutter my life!

The challenge itself will last a couple weeks- but the effects will need to be maintained over the course of my years. I have taken some of the most messy aspects of my life and am going to write a blog post about how I’m going to essentially fix them.

  • My Phone
  • My Room
  • My Laptop
  • My Work
  • My Mind

Stay tuned for more blogs- oh, and if you’re interested in doing the challenge yourself, let me know and show me how it goes for you!!

[Guide] How to Make a Bujo Spread

Hi guys! I know I went over how to make a bujo (bullet journal) spread, but I have never really delved into how I make my spreads. As I have adopted a new way of making my bujo layouts, I think I should share it!!

Supplies Needed:

    Pencil / Good Eraser
    Black Pen
    Color of your choice in at least 2 different shades (preferably marker)
    Your Bullet Journal (preferably dotted)

Guide!:

  1. Because I used a dotted journal, I determined my sketching by the squares that could be formed by the dots. Now, I avoid gridded journals because they don’t allow as much freedom as the dotted journals do! So, lightly doodle boxes with the pencil as a rough sketch: indicate for sure where the corners are!
  2. Assuming you will be coloring your headers, outline and fill the box with the lightest shade of your chosen color.
  3. For additional effects, use the next darkest tint and outline only the box and where the text might be.
  4. Go ahead and erase the pencil indicators on the top.
  5. With your black pen- preferably a fineliner- outline the box all around. Erase as you go, but make sure that the eraser shavings are gone before continuing to outline!
  6. Add a couple doodles here and there, but again, go from a lighter scheme to dark!! 🙂

Below is my result of this process!!

    Why I Don’t Pick Sides

    Hi everybody! Today, I wanted to discuss a topic that I haven’t really addressed in full. In passing, I might have mentioned that I do not like involving myself in others’ drama or that I prefer to stay neutral. However, I have never outright given reasons explaining why I do this.

    What does it mean to choose a side?
    So, when somebody confronts me with a problem with another individual, I am often prone to wanting to involve myself- especially if I have already formed an opinion on the other person. As I tend to be a rather soft-hearted being, I struggle at times with stepping back with a neutral mind.

    However, I currently serve as an administrator on a central hub for a particular website- and I recently attained the position. In the process, I’ve definitely learned that neutrality is a must in order to keep the peace. Bias leads only to further conflict that can easily be avoided.

    Why do I refuse to fight other battles?
    I never used to avoid others’ arguments; in fact, I always involved myself in debates that were never mine to begin with. As I’ve mellowed gradually through the years, I’ve discovered that other people will not grow up if they have their battles fought for them all the time.

    One example I refer to is back when I was a new sophomore in JROTC- in that class, you’re expected to know how to put on your rank and military uniform a specific way. I always relied on my then-boyfriend to put on my rank- then, when we broke up (thus, avoiding each other), I had a hard time setting my rank.

    The thing is, I eventually learned. In the process of my struggle, I gained practice in just doing the task. If I deny others the ability to fight their own wars, they are never going to be able to grow as human beings. In time, they’ll learn to appreciate the journey.

    Courage

    Hi guys! Today’s post will be focused on a story I wish to share with all of you. As many of my readers know, I deal with multiple disabilities, as well as general social anxiety.

    So, every other day at least, I go on a walk for about half a mile to visit a playground of the elementary school I attended. Not only does walking with my music clear my mind, but I find swinging on playground swings extremely relaxing. Considering how stressed I discover I can be at times, taking time out of my day to give myself fresh air is actually quite helpful.

    When I swing for a bit, I catch a view of two teenage boys playing basketball, and immediately, I knew I wanted to participate. They had clearly just arrived as well, probably a few minutes before I did. So, while swinging, I tried to figure out the best way to approach them. Granted, I have huge social anxiety, and so even talking to strangers leaves me extremely nervous- regardless of age or anything.

    After about twenty to thirty minutes, I finally gathered up the courage to speak to them. I asked them if I could play- after all, worst case scenario, they’d say no, right? In a surprising turn, the boys eagerly accepted my request, and I spent the next half hour in an intense game of basketball.

    The thing is, social anxiety can control you, yes. However, if you summon enough strength in yourself to push past it, there’s no doubt you’ll regret it. Consider the worst possible thing that can happen: maybe you get told off or something. However, I would rather regret the things I do than the things I don’t do.

    And that is how I found courage despite my anxiety.

    Growing Up

    It gets better. I’m not lying: it really does. Truth be told, life is super hard. I know that. Depending on your beliefs, it’s one of the truest journeys you’ll ever have, but also among the toughest. The thing is, though, if it was honestly easy? Everybody would be more than eager to grow up and go through the motions. Everybody would do it, which is why life is the way it is. These struggles are not going to define nor kill you. If you are given a challenge, all I ask of you is to embrace it head-on. Yes, it is going to tear and sting and you will fall a couple of times, but it never changes. As children, we learn how to ride a bicycle. Obviously, all of us learn at our own pace; some with more injuries than others. However, it is well worth it when you can look back with satisfaction and say you survived.

    Why Do I Isolate Myself?

    Hi guys! So, for those of you who don’t know, I’m still accepted submissions for questions to answer. Also, because lately, I notice I’ve been rather isolating myself, I wanted to get into the topic of why I do that..

    So, I’m quite frankly somebody who does not take bad news well- who does? But when it comes to coping with such situations, I tend to isolate myself from other people. I draw in all of my pain towards myself- which can be seen as extremely self-destructive (and it is), and not many people really ever understand why.

    The reason why I isolate myself is not because I don’t want the support. Because honestly, I do need the support more than anything and it’s the number one thing that I seriously want in desperate times. But there’s multiple factors that are involved.

    One of them is that I have been hurt many times by people I thought I trusted. Every time I have tried to allow the majority of people into my life, I believe I’ve been turned away the times I did need somebody, whether they were busy or didn’t care or whatnot. So, I feel as if my problems will be better solved if I keep them to myself.

    Another reason I isolate is because I don’t like to bother people with things that are upsetting me. It partially is because I believe that if somebody wants to fix something, they shouldn’t complain about it, and I do my absolute best to hold true to that very ideal. Plus, I just feel worse whenever I talk about my situations, because either the person pities me or tries to solve it and that’s the last thing I want.

    The third reason is that chances are, the problem has been solved and I just needed to stew about the remains of it. It’s honestly a strange concept, but after I finish dealing with a situation, I find myself needing to share it as if it was still going on. Somehow, I think it makes it feel more valid and perhaps might make me feel stronger about solving it.

    I’m not trying to push away or hurt other people. I isolate in desperate times because I don’t want to bother anybody. And so, I usually don’t.

    Flawed Actions

    Hi guys! So, as I stated in the previous blog post, I’m going to be writing out a bunch of the things that I am asked in a blog post- for example, why I struggle with social concepts. However, before I start going into the list, I wanted to remove all forms of doubt about my purpose here.

    I’m not telling you guys that my disabilities serve as an excuse. Like, if I did something absolutely terrible and I ended up in big trouble for it, the last thing I’d want to do is say “well, my disability made me do this”. Because quite honestly, I’m still accountable for my actions- as I should be. It always irks me immensely whenever I watch a crime show and individuals who are guilty of murder emphasize on the fact that they have a mental disorder, so they’re off the hook. Honestly, that to me should be a huge no-no in our society, as it seems to be a continuing trend.

    The reason I’m writing the upcoming blog posts is primarily to explain to the world (or at least, my followers) why I do or say or act on certain things. I look forward to this journey. ❤

    Introduction of the Blue Jay!

    Hi guys!

    For those of you who do not know me, my name is Ayla! I am an 18 year old woman living and loving life in Alaska, USA, but I deal with a multitude of different disabilities on a day-to-day basis. I was diagnosed with high-functioning Autism Spectrum Disorder, Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, and mild Bipolar Disorder in July 2016, while I’ve dealt with Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, Major Depressive Disorder, and general Anxiety throughout my entire life.

    In time, I’ve come to accept my disabilities, but I also act differently to situations than other people might. I tend to grow attached to people and ideas far more than what can be considered normal, and I have a lot of different ideas and thought processes. My general concepts can usually be emphasized through writing, which is why I’ve started this blog.

    I want people who don’t have my mindset to understand where I’m coming from on a variety of topics. So, here’s to a lovely future! 😀